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Self Esteem – Finding a Balance between Arrogance and Confidence

Confidence. Too much confidence, and you come across as arrogant. Too little confidence, and you come across as unsure.


According to Psychology Today, confidence “
can be described as a belief in oneself, that one has the ability to meet life’s challenges and to succeed – and acting in a way that conveys that belief.” They continue to write, “Projecting just enough confidence helps people gain credibility, make a strong first impression, deal with pressure, and tackle personal and professional challenges.”

Most people know that being confident is a great thing – it means to be certain and to believe in yourself. In fact, according to Wikipedia, the word confidencecomes from [the] Latin word fidere, which means ‘to trust;’ therefore, having…self-confidence is having trust in oneself.

If you’re confident that something will work out, it means you positively believe something will work out. If you’re confident that you solved a problem, it means you positively believe you solved a problem. And finally, if you’re confident about yourself, it means you positively believe in yourself. Confidence is a good thing.

According to Time Management Ninja, “Less confidence does not lead to success. To the contrary, it leads to holding back. It leads to shyness. Inaction. And often, missed opportunities.” The author of this blog post continues to write, “When I speak of confidence, I am not talking about blind arrogance. Those that are overly confident fall into yet another category. However, I am referring to the self-confidence needed to believe in one’s own skills, goals, and ability to succeed. When you believe in yourself you are more likely to take action. To stand up and seize the moment. And to persevere long after those who doubt themselves.

In short, confidence is cool.

But there’s a difference between confidence and arrogance, also known as pride.

In the Bible, 1 Peter 5:5 says, “Clothe yourself with humility.” In addition, James 4:6 says, “But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: ‘God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.

Proverbs 16:18 says, “Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.

And lastly, Proverbs 16:5 says, “The LORD detests all the proud of heart. Be sure of this: They will not go unpunished.

So, it’s pretty obvious that pride isn’t a good thing. But there is a difference between having pride and taking pride.

To have pride is to be prideful, to be constantly over-arrogant and over-confident of your actions. According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, one of the definitions of pride is “a feeling that you are more important or better than other people” and “inordinate self-esteem.” It’s arrogant and bordering narcissism – it’s believing you are better than others, have achieved more than others, or are, in a casual way of speaking, “all that and a bag of chips.

However, taking pride in something is a completely different subject altogether. To take pride in something is to take pride in a beautiful masterpiece you finished, or a 1,000-word essay that you wrote, or a long list of tasks that you completed. It is good and actually healthy to be proud of your accomplishments, or else there would be no desire to accomplish them at all. If you weren’t proud of the major shot you took from several feet away when playing basketball, or the book you finished, or the work that you’ve done, then why would you even want to accomplish those things? In short, taking pride in accomplishments is good – but taking too much pride can lead to having pride, and having pride is not good.

In the summarization of confidence vs. arrogance, and taking pride vs. having pride: Confidence is believing in yourself, while arrogance is believing you’re better than others. Taking pride is a healthy way of rewarding yourself for your actions and accomplishments, while having pride is an arrogant way of believing that those accomplishments make you a better or more accomplished person than anyone else.

Be confident. Take pride – while at the same time remaining humble to yourself, to others, and to God. For as the Bible says in James 4:10, “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.

– Arianna Fox, 13-Year-Old Girlpreneur, Double Author, Motivational Speaker, Voiceover Talent, and Actress

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Serving God – Even When It’s Hard by Arianna Fox

Serve God

“Serve the Lord!”

As a Christian, you most likely hear that phrase all the time, or at least a phrase similar to it. “You gotta serve the Lord!” “You need to have a servant’s heart!” “Praise the Lord forever, even when you don’t feel like it!

You might be wondering what “serving the Lord” even entails. How do I serve Him? You might be thinking. Or you might be thinking you know exactly what to do to serve the Lord, but you might not feel like it – or maybe you’re going through a hard time.

I get it. But no matter what, serving, praising and thanking God continually is essential.

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 says (in KJV), “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” The NIV says the same thing: “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

One part of Verse 18 that I thought was intriguing was that it said, “In everything, give thanks”/“Give thanks in all circumstances.” I used to sometimes wonder, “What if you break your arm, or a tornado hits your house, or you become poor? Why would you thank God for bad things?

Well, my parents and I were talking once, and we were talking about that Scripture. My parents brought up the fact that it says “In everything, give thanks.” Not for everything. In everything. Even if one broke their arm, they could still thank God that they’re healing and recovering rapidly. Even if a tornado hit one’s house, they could still thank God that they and their family survived and is alright. If one became poor, they could thank God for everything else going right in their life. You can still thank God in everything.

There’s an old song my family and I love to listen to called Sacrifice of Praise. One of the lyrics says, “We bring a sacrifice of praise into the house of the Lord.” One day, my parents and I were talking about that song, and I was wondering why it was called a “sacrifice” in the song. According to the dictionary, the word “sacrifice” either means sacrificing an animal to a god or deity, or to surrender or give up something that you love or want to keep. The word “sacrifice” can also be used as a word for sacrificing time to do something you don’t want to do. How in the world is praise a sacrifice? Praising God is awesome, right?

Yes, praying to and praising Jesus is definitely awesome. But when my parents and I were talking, my parents brought up a good point – the word “sacrifice” is referred to as a sacrifice in the song because sometimes it feels like a sacrifice, feels like a burden, when you’re going through hard times or times in life when you don’t feel like praising God. Or, perhaps, you feel there is nothing to praise God for. Praise is sometimes a sacrifice because sometimes, the times when you least feel like praising God, those are the times when you most need to.

“During difficult times,” writes Matrid Harper in her blog post Serving the Lord in Difficult Times, “we must be steadfast in service and praises to our God and be thankful for the strength to persevere.” She continues to write, “We cannot serve the Lord to please this world for this world can never provide us with the peace that passes all understanding. We instead serve our Lord to please Him alone and that clearly re-affirms why we are called His children. Our bodies are temples of God and that’s why we should all be very careful how we live our lives and always strive to please our Heavenly Father. We need to practice self-control.”

There are many different ways that we can serve the Lord – praise, worship (which are two separate things [but that’s a whole another topic]), doing what God calls us to do or lays on our heart to say, etc. But the most important thing to know is that it will be hard. Some days, it will be extremely easy – and other days, it might seem impossible. It might be difficult to praise the Lord on a day when you feel like there’s nothing to praise Him for. But do it anyway. Praise Him, magnify Him, glorify Him, even when it isn’t easy – even when it seems impossible; even when bad things are happening in your life. And as long as you keep doing what He wants you to do, you will succeed.

– Arianna Fox, 12-Year-Old Girlpreneur, Author and Motivational Speaker

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