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How Self-Esteem is Different from Self-Confidence

By Kimberly McGowan
March 3, 2020

 

 

 

 

 

People often assume these are two different words conveying the same thing.  Simply, not true. You can have Self- Esteem and lack Self- Confidence, as well, you can Self Confidence and lack Self Esteem. What makes a well-rounded individual is having both qualities.  You’ll be more successful, happier in general, and happier with yourself if you can cultivate both qualities.

Here are some key differences:

  1. Self-confidence is situation specific. You can have a lot of self-confidence regarding your ability to accomplish a goal, such as, cooking a dish, host a great party, or to play a sport. You can simultaneously have zero self-confidence in your ability to cook or sing.  The same rule applies to social settings or groups. For instance, if you have been teased about not having a green thumb and the group is talking about gardening you are less likely to share your experience with the group.Self-confidence is the amount of trust you have in yourself to do a particular task well.  The root of Self-confidence is experience

     

  2. Self-esteem is a general impression you have of yourself. Self-esteem is a form of self-love. It’s how pleased you are with yourself in general. It is your view of your worth.  While you can have the confidence to believe you can do something and lack the self- esteem to believe you are going to be good at it.
  3. Self-confidence is easier to build. Self-confidence is the result of preparation and success. For example, if you prepare well for an exam, you’ll have confidence in your ability to do well on that exam. When you have a history of doing well at something, you’ll develop self-confidence in that area.
  4. Self-esteem can’t be built with achievements. It’s true self- love and worth.  A wall full of trophies and awards can really boost your self-confidence. However, it may do little for your self-esteem. You can be great at something without valuing yourself.

Building self-confidence is work, but the work that needs to be done is quite clear. If you want to be confident at shooting free-throws, shoot 100 of them each day until you’re consistently successful. Practice giving speeches until you’re good at giving them and you’ll develop self-confidence in that area of your life.

Learning to love yourself more will help you build self-esteem.

Practice these techniques to build your self-esteem:

  1. Identify your values and use them to guide your decisions. List your values and refer back to your list often. Think about changes you can make to your life to live according to your values. Failing to adhere to your values is a leading cause of low self-esteem.
  2. Reject perfection. If you’re trying to be perfect, you’re going to fail. If you consistently fail at living up to a standard, your self-esteem will suffer. Lower the bar to something achievable and give yourself the chance to be pleased with yourself. 
  3. Volunteer. Spend some of your time each week helping others that are less fortunate. This is a great way to show yourself that you’re a kind and giving person. Find an organization that serves a cause that you feel empathy for.
  4. Manage your self-talk. If you spend all day insulting yourself, it’s tough to feel good about yourself. There’s no way to permanently shut down your inner vocalizations, but you can manage them. Stop yourself when you notice negative self-talk and turn it to something positive.

You can have one without the other. But it’s much more powerful to have both than to only have one. You can be wildly successful with just self-confidence, but your successes will never make you happy or satisfied. Both work together synergistically to create a life experience that can’t be duplicated any other way.

Build self-confidence in the areas that serve you. Build your self-esteem so you can love yourself.

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